A few episodes ago, in For When You Feel Buried, we talked about how to keep doing what you know to do when you don't really feel like doing anything at all. Consider this a follow-up of sorts. These are lessons gleaned from a year I didn't really want to walk through. A year I wanted an escape route out of. These are lessons from letting go.

If you're new to No One Told Me, let me explain. Our Did Anyone Tell You episodes are a break from the norm, meant to give you all you need in any small-talk-required situation. NOTM friends, Kaley and Khari, jump in this time around to share their personal Halloween experiences...that will most likely surprise you. Take a breath, laugh a little and have the happiest of Halloweens.

You know what I'm ready for? What I'm doing my very best to build? A soft life. I'm tired of this life lived trying to prove something, you know? Because it never ends. There's always some new finish line to get to, and as I get older - I want less focus on where I'm finishing in the race and more focus on how I'm running it. The soft life is in not trying to live a life being who anyone else wants you to be, but paying attention to who you are and who Jesus is calling you to be in spite of expectations and circumstances. It's not easy.…

Today we're rolling with my new friend, Stephanie May Wilson. She's an author, podcast host, coach and all around encourager - that's my kind of people. So, I think she's your kind of people too. We spend the next half hour talking about how much we want to back out of commitment when the time comes to execute on the commitment, how we hype ourselves up in really hard seasons, how to walk with other people who aren't going through anything we've ever been through...really it's just about how to stay right where you are even though you kind of wish you were anywhere else. There's lots that can keep…

Community is just...hard. Whether you’re rolling into a new chapter in life with a new job or a new city, new husband, new baby - these big life shifts create big emotional and mental shifts and really all you want is for someone to be like, “Yeah, I get it. Let’s walk through it together." We want to show up exactly how we are without having to perform or cover anything up. That’s the gold standard of friendship, right? You can be exactly who you are without any fear of changing the relationship. While I don’t have a magic community forming formula for you, we do maybe have ways to…

If you've ever found yourself shape shifting, becoming who someone else needs you to be, saying yes when you really want to say no... If you find yourself completely at a loss when someone asks, "What do you really want?" - you're in the best place to discover the best of you with our friend Dr Alison Cook.

If you, like me, feel a little buried in your season...by disappointment, expectations, uncertainty - push play. Let's be honest, push play even if you don't, because this is just one of those things that happens. And you'll be happy to know what to do when it does.

Every now and again, you need a conversation the meanders. You know the kind? It starts at A, but ends up at Z without clear directives on how exactly we there. These Did Anyone Tell You episodes with NOTM Best Friends, Khari and Kaley, are full of the things you didn't know you wanted to know. Small tidbits of information that equip you to participate in the conversation around Jack Harlow's transport over the Kentucky Derby field a couple weeks ago. See? You didn't know you needed to know that. Just over here filling all of the Need To Know gaps - one Did Anyone Tell You at a time.

Bethny Ricks has over 18 years of leadership experience, most recently holding the position of Senior Vice President of Global Human Resources. Her ability to take that experience and equip those coming behind her has led to one of the most rich conversations I've had over the past three years of podcasting. These are the lessons I wish I'd leaned into sooner. The words I wish I'd thought to pay attention to earlier on. Her insight into leadership dynamics from the top, down, and from the bottom, up - no matter if you're in the workplace or holding it down at home...this is worth pushing play.