Squarely into my 30's, I've learned something about my 20's - there's a lot of false starts. So, let me say it again - that's okay. There's something to be gained in the false starts and it ends up being one of the greatest leadership tools. We talk about how painful it can be when someone you love doesn't support you, how do you pursue what others may not always understand and what does it look like to pursue and protect your peace? It can lead to a whole lot of freedom.

With every new season, my favorite thing to do is think about what I want to keep from that season and what I want to leave behind. It means evaluating where you were, where you are and where you're trying to go.

Intentionality. It's a word that implies a choice. And as I've gotten older, I've learned the weight of the choices I didn't think mattered all that much. My thoughts knew no bounds. My mind wandered freely. And now there are paths carved between my heart and my thoughts that leave me feeling defeated before I've even started. How about you? Are your thoughts what you want them to be? Have you practiced the art of training them to be for you rather than against you? Let's start here.

This is not an episode about how to keep going or three easy steps to overcoming. This is an episode about perspective within it. You won't avoid it, this feeling of disappointment, so let's talk about how we can face it.

How we've treated the waiting could be while we're still waiting.

This entire season of No One Told Me - all 35 episodes - was working toward this last 15 minutes together.

You know what I’m very good at? Suggesting. Sometimes uninvited suggestions, because when my people are in something – a crisis, heartache, problem – I think they must be telling me so I can share with them how to get out of it. My heart hurts so much for them that I want nothing more than to push and pull them out if it. But the goal isn’t always to get out. We have to get through. So how can I be better about sitting in it instead of finding ways out? What’s the balance between learning what this season has to offer and navigating to the other side? I…

While most Did Anyone Tell You episodes are meant to cover anything you might have missed in the headlines each month - this one is steeped more in the past than the present. If ever there was an episode that could be marked oversharing - it's this one. But, honestly - no regrets. Kaley and Khari are back for another round of Did Anyone Tell You.